Dialogue: Love Finale

Shrink: You work in an office that has many beautiful girls. You are not a womanizer so you aren't really jumping into bed with them. You have worked for 3 months and then you begin to notice one girl. Not even among the top 5 cutest in the office but...there is something about her. 6 months, and you think if there are angels in existence, she must surely be one. 1 year you get married and you have no regrets. Question: why wasn't it any of the other girls you fell for?

Shrink: They are finer, sexier and not bad at all in character. But you fell for this particular one. Why?

    

Friend: The heart knows what it wants.... Where it finds comfort       

Shrink: Now that's deep

Shrink: But let's try to think about it

Shrink: Why?

Shrink: What are the possible factors?

Friend: That’s the funny thing about love.... It's not logic.... It's metaphysical

Shrink: Haha! Now you are funny! You are right though. Tell that to all the people who claim to be in love

Friend: There’s a part of us...we don't experience it every day.... It's like the CEO you don't see everyday..... It knows what it wants n when situations rise above the normal mind staffs.... It steps in

                Friend: How can there b so many beautiful houses in the city, but you experience great peace in your grandmother's hut

Shrink: Friend, have you met the love of your life?

Shrink: You sound like you have!

Shrink: because that example captured the feeling perfectly!

Friend: I know about love because I think a lot

Friend: I am currently single

Friend: I can love anyone I want

Friend: A friend of mine said it's like I have life figured out

Shrink: You sound like you do

Shrink: Well I have met the love of my life

Shrink: I have known for 4 years

Shrink: And the grandmother's hut description fits it exactly

Shrink: That's why I exclaimed!

Shrink: You spoke like a man with experience!

Friend: the thing is truthfully, the heart is more comfortable with simplicity than anything else

Friend: Working with children has opened up life to me..... I have understood the world through their eyes

Shrink: You impress me, Friend. But I wonder how far you can go. What can you do for love? (Agape)

Friend: I can point a gun at anyone who tries to hurt them

Friend: But I tend to b able to understand people

Friend: At that point I understand a person.... I tend to love them.... Normal love

Shrink: Apart from your life, can you give up everything you hold so dear, for love?

Friend: Only if the person is ready to do the same

Shrink: GOOD.

Shrink: You have landed exactly where I was hoping to take you to.

Shrink: You see, that's the difference between Eros and agape.

Friend: Did you just shrink me?

Friend: Jeez..... You're good

Shrink: Agape gives everything and wants nothing in return. While Eros gives everything and wants everything in return!

Shrink: Both are beautiful

Shrink: And true Eros always coexists with agape

                       

Friend: That’s why I said they work in tandem

Shrink: Agape is the foundation of Eros

              

Friend: I am ready to give everything expecting nothing..... But I like to have that foreknowledge the person would do the same

Shrink: And you were absolutely right

Shrink: Good

Shrink: That's true Eros

Shrink: But in agape, the mark is

Shrink: Give all, expect nothing

                   

Friend: Like God..... He has given us his all....but you need to seek him with all your heart to find him..... You must give your life, your entirety to him

                        Friend: Give all, expect nothing..... But know that the person would do the same..... Agape in Eros m Eros in Agape..... That's perfect Love.... N it's beautiful

Shrink: Yes we must give our hearts to him. But imagine someone who hasn't and doesn't want to. Does God still love him?

               Friend: Yes he does

Shrink: Good

Shrink: Now let's go to Jesus

              

Friend: Does that Love the person to heaven?

Shrink: Note a few things about the agape he taught

Shrink: One, love all. Unless, you are like the scribes and Pharisees. So you see, agape is not selective by nature. But Eros by nature is.

               Friend: My love n life are based on the principles of Christ's teaching

Shrink: Two, the Father like the sun shines down on good and evil. Again, not selective

               Friend: Now..... You are talking about general Love

Shrink: Three, give, Jesus said. And expect nothing in return.

               Friend: When it's general to all..... Agape is applied

Shrink: So agape EXPECTS nothing in return

               Friend: When it's to a particular person..... Agape n Eros work hand in hand

Shrink: You are correct

Friend: We my Brother are saying the same thing

Shrink: Yes we are

Friend: Okay

Friend: Whewww

Dialogue: Other view

.......continued from last post 

Friend: First.... People mistake Feelings for love

Friend: It’s not Love that is overrated.... It's feelings

Friend: Feelings is like that initial spark of a fire.... It burns bright n loud.... Passion is raw... A sense of adventure is born

Shrink: I need excessive details

Friend: Love is the second thing, you talked about..... The sustenance

Friend: To understand Love.... People need to have knowledge of God

Friend: While feelings bring, jealousy.... Love brings understanding

Friend: Feelings bring possessiveness..... Love brings acceptance

Friend: It’s like giving a child a new toy.... He's engrossed in it for the first few days until that initial spark dies and he goes back to that old constant toy

Friend: Feelings bring manipulation.... Love brings Sacrifice

Friend: Feelings is about what I stand to get..... Love is about sacrifice.... What the other person stands to gain

Shrink: You are absolutely right

Shrink: For me, that thing people call love, I no longer see as love

Shrink: I see it as child's play

Shrink: And when I said "love" is overrated

Shrink: I was referring to that "thing" that THEY call love

Shrink: Now I have experienced what you described

Shrink: But in my case its so deep

Shrink: That I fear

Shrink: That if this is the real love

Shrink: Then there is no love in this world

Friend: There is.... But our generation is a jet age.... Fast cars, fast foods, fast birth, fast death, fast love

Friend: Love is too deep to b fast.... Deeper than an ocean

Friend: That’s why the bible says, love is patient...... You must be patient to transit from feelings to Love

Shrink: Hmmmm

Shrink: The standard is very high

Shrink: The standard of both Eros and agape

Shrink: I believe one can only prove love 20years after marriage

Friend: Yup

Shrink: When you wake up and thank God that she is the one

Friend: Yea

Shrink: Every morning

Shrink: Till then, hard to tell

      Friend: Love is not ignoring the person's law, it's accepting it, understanding it n loving the flaw as much as the good side

Friend: I mirror what God does to me into the definition of love

Friend: He knows my flaws n frailties n he accepts me like that

Friend: I err continuously but he never gets tired of me

 Shrink: Hmmm. What's the difference between Eros and agape?

Friend: Eros is the romantic aspect of love

Friend: Agape is the brotherly.... Acceptability part of it

Friend: You need both for a relationship to work..... They work in tandem.... Two heads beta than one philosophy

Shrink: Making sense

Shrink: A question

Shrink: Can you have Eros for everybody?

Shrink: Or can one have

Shrink: Cos it’s not a personal question

Friend: Eros is a wide fire that needs taming

Friend: Man is adventurous

Friend: Explore new ground n all

Friend: But if Eros is tamed.... Centralized on just one individual..... Like a knife edge

Friend: You know the drill

Friend: Love is a Journey rather than a destination

to be continued.........

Dialogue

                       Friend: So, you think Love is overrated?

Shrink: Yes

Shrink: I do

Shrink: I didn't think so before

Shrink: But now I do

Shrink: Lol

Friend: why

Shrink: I can still fall in love and be romantic

Friend: Oh.... Tell me your love story

Friend: What happened?

Shrink: Hahaha

Shrink: Biko no love story

Shrink: But I have points

Shrink: And reasons why I think so

Friend: Point me to the reasons

Shrink: Lol

Shrink: First, look at all the relationships with people claiming to be in love

Shrink: If love were the most important thing

Shrink: It is these ones that should last

Shrink: The relationships that have so much passion

Shrink: Tend to crash faster

Shrink: Because along with love

Shrink: Comes jealousy, possessiveness and manipulation

Shrink: Suspiciousness and all sorts

Shrink: But people who are less possessive aren't prone to jealousy and much suspiciousness

Shrink: And aren't that high on emotion

Shrink: They have this stable acceptance and "loving"

Shrink: They don't go about putting it in people's faces

Shrink: That's maturity

Friend: Okay

Shrink: So

Shrink: There is something that makes relationships work

Shrink: It’s something deeper than love

Shrink: But first, people don't have an idea what it is

Shrink: Secondly, there is something deeper that's needed

Shrink: Which is what I have tried to describe

Shrink: So that's it

Friend: You got me glued to my seat.... Keep it on

Shrink: Hahaha

Shrink: No be me pour glue for your seat oh

Shrink: Biko

Friend: Now, my view

Shrink: Oh great

Shrink: Let's hear

to be continued.........

Disclaimer

I am not going to claim to have life all figured out. Life in itself is a journey and not necessarily a destination.

I will not tell you how to live your life. My life and yours are different. I can only give a guide from my experiences.

Live life on the edge and gain knowledge. Do not be afraid or too cautious in living. Make mistakes, do not avoid them, for our greatest moments are forged from them.

Be happy, worry less, laugh more with reckless abandon, love whole heartedly. Accept challenges, they make you stronger, make new friends, settle disputes quickly. Quarrels can not be avoided if we are to know each other better. Do not let the err of others be a permanent stain in your heart.

You are greater than you see yourself, strive daily to see that greatness and work/walk towards it. Push yourself to the limit, you will find out there really is no limit. Life is just elastic like that.

In all, I beg you, Live and do not just exist. In the end you are accountable to yourself and your creator. Love God with all your heart and you are on your way to been alright.