Dialogue: Other view

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Friend: First.... People mistake Feelings for love

Friend: It’s not Love that is overrated.... It's feelings

Friend: Feelings is like that initial spark of a fire.... It burns bright n loud.... Passion is raw... A sense of adventure is born

Shrink: I need excessive details

Friend: Love is the second thing, you talked about..... The sustenance

Friend: To understand Love.... People need to have knowledge of God

Friend: While feelings bring, jealousy.... Love brings understanding

Friend: Feelings bring possessiveness..... Love brings acceptance

Friend: It’s like giving a child a new toy.... He's engrossed in it for the first few days until that initial spark dies and he goes back to that old constant toy

Friend: Feelings bring manipulation.... Love brings Sacrifice

Friend: Feelings is about what I stand to get..... Love is about sacrifice.... What the other person stands to gain

Shrink: You are absolutely right

Shrink: For me, that thing people call love, I no longer see as love

Shrink: I see it as child's play

Shrink: And when I said "love" is overrated

Shrink: I was referring to that "thing" that THEY call love

Shrink: Now I have experienced what you described

Shrink: But in my case its so deep

Shrink: That I fear

Shrink: That if this is the real love

Shrink: Then there is no love in this world

Friend: There is.... But our generation is a jet age.... Fast cars, fast foods, fast birth, fast death, fast love

Friend: Love is too deep to b fast.... Deeper than an ocean

Friend: That’s why the bible says, love is patient...... You must be patient to transit from feelings to Love

Shrink: Hmmmm

Shrink: The standard is very high

Shrink: The standard of both Eros and agape

Shrink: I believe one can only prove love 20years after marriage

Friend: Yup

Shrink: When you wake up and thank God that she is the one

Friend: Yea

Shrink: Every morning

Shrink: Till then, hard to tell

      Friend: Love is not ignoring the person's law, it's accepting it, understanding it n loving the flaw as much as the good side

Friend: I mirror what God does to me into the definition of love

Friend: He knows my flaws n frailties n he accepts me like that

Friend: I err continuously but he never gets tired of me

 Shrink: Hmmm. What's the difference between Eros and agape?

Friend: Eros is the romantic aspect of love

Friend: Agape is the brotherly.... Acceptability part of it

Friend: You need both for a relationship to work..... They work in tandem.... Two heads beta than one philosophy

Shrink: Making sense

Shrink: A question

Shrink: Can you have Eros for everybody?

Shrink: Or can one have

Shrink: Cos it’s not a personal question

Friend: Eros is a wide fire that needs taming

Friend: Man is adventurous

Friend: Explore new ground n all

Friend: But if Eros is tamed.... Centralized on just one individual..... Like a knife edge

Friend: You know the drill

Friend: Love is a Journey rather than a destination

to be continued.........